I lost my dad. The weirdest and painful thing to say neither to understand. The most painful reality that every human being needs to face. There is no specific age to feel fine of losing parents. My dad was my biggest de facto in my life and career. My life purpose and a true soul mate, match made from heaven. It breaks my heart to learn that he is now somewhere where I cannot reach, call or hug him. Not anymore.
As this writing being written, it is the seventh days after his passing and also his birthday. We had the initial plan to celebrate his birthday and the rest of family, and to welcome his great-grandchildren. Supposedly, on 15th September 2018, his 78th birthday – we have planned simple celebration which it will be hosted by me and family but it turned out a tahlil for him. Even is not a celebration that I planned, but surely, he is now in better place and I still host the tahlil for him
My father – Tan Sri Abu Hassan was the 12th Selangor Menteri Besar from 6th June 1997 to 9th August 2000. With all his heart, he carried the responsibilities as Menteri Besar until the end of his term. He was too dedicated to his job and I am proud to say that Selangor was at the peak of development when my father still in the Selangor state office.
Even he was no longer running for any position in the election, my father continued to serve the community apart from playing a role during the 14th General Election. My father’s last post was as Selangor Former Elected Represen¬tatives Council chairman. His last position was Yang Dipertua Majlis Bekas Wakil Rakyat Malaysia (MUBARAK) Selangor from 2005.
My father married my mother – Puan Sri Wan Nor Daud and his love to my mother was unconditional until the day he left us. He named our family with “Hasnor” to symbolize the bonding of his love to my mother. We are a family of five – one of our brothers left us much earlier and our father was the glue that holds us together at difficult times. He was protective of everyone in the family and not even a single person missing out from his unconditional love. His warm smile and eyes will always be remembered.
Being a politician, minister and father, my father made everything impossible to possible. A dedicated countryman and father which definitely will be part of my life forever. Probably I am mature enough to stand on my own feet, but it seems I need more time to learn on his passing. Even though I have thousands of things to do, I will always put him on top of my list. For whatever reason is – he is my priority.
The last time I met him was on Thursday – 6th September, he came to my house – unplanned. He looks a bit unwell but jovial as he used to be. I just finished my interview with Sinar Harian on that day and decided to go home early and I did not know he came to my house. Allah knows best. Through delicate instincts, I changed the interview time from 4 p.m. to 12 p.m. He brought my favourite delicacies from Mak Jah’s stall that I enjoyed all her delicious kuih. He waited for me for short get together and little did I know it was his final visit to my house before he left us forever.
I try to pick up all the missing pieces of my heart and try to put together, to find strength and to be able to move on. It feels different without him and to continue my life without him certainly something very new to me and the rest of our family.
I am honored to see what he planned for Selangor during his time in office came into reality. Selangor is a huge area but the development of Selangor from rural to the city was really something that made me realize that he was the real countryman. After the news of his passing was officially announced through media online and offline, our house was humbled by thousands of visitors to pay tributes and respects to my late father.
Our bonding with the people of Selangor is really close because our father still is their point of reference and also we were raised with the great relation to the people of Selangor. Definitely, they are not strangers to us. It was also a great honor to our family when we received the news from the palace to rest his body at the Shah Alam Royal Mausoleum.
I would like to share this beautiful poem about a father. By Katherine Cannon – To Be Daddy’s Girl Again Someday
Feeling lost without him
Feeling empty too
I used to be my daddy’s girl
This I know was true.
Now that we have split apart
Gone our separate ways
I pray to God each night
To bring us back together someday.
Yet I fear this is impossible
Not right now anyway.
I still hold out hope
To be my daddy’s girl again someday.
Yet still all I can say is,
I’m feeling lost without him
Feeling empty too
Dear God I’m still praying
Please oh please to help me get through.
From the bottom of my heart and my family, we would like to offer our humble appreciation for the great honor to our late father – the Sultan of Selangor, Sultan Sharafuddin Idris Shah and the Tengku Permaisuri of Selangor, Tengku Permaisuri Norashikin, the management of Shah Alam Royal Mausoleum, family members, members of community, relatives and friends who keeps on sending their warm thoughts and prayers to us at this difficult time.
Bapa, till we meet again in Jannah insya allah. You have done your part to love us, giving education and being the protective father that I always remember. My love to you is eternal and with prayers, I send you back to Allah with redha.
Al Fatihah, Tan Sri Abu Hassan Omar.
15 September 1940 – 8 September 2018